Preparation for a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) or your first joint session is more than just gathering paperwork; it is about shifting from a “litigation” mindset to a “resolution” mindset. In 2026, with the court’s increased emphasis on Non-Court Dispute Resolution (NCDR), being well-prepared is essential to demonstrate that you are engaging with the process in good faith.
1. Understanding the Process
Knowing what happens at each stage can significantly reduce anxiety.
| Stage | Focus | Who Attends? |
| MIAM | Individual assessment, suitability, and funding check. | You and the mediator (privately). |
| Preparation | Gathering financial disclosure or child-related data. | Done individually between sessions. |
| Joint Sessions | Managed negotiation and problem-solving. | Both parties and the mediator. |
| Outcome | Drafting the Memorandum of Understanding (MOU). | Prepared by the mediator. |
2. Documentation Checklist
You do not need to bring every receipt, but having “core” information ready allows the mediator to assess the complexity of your case accurately.
For Financial & Property Disputes
If your mediation involves assets, you should start gathering these early, as some (like pensions) can take weeks to arrive:
- Income: Last 3 months of payslips and your P60.
- Banking: 12 months of statements for every account in your name (sole or joint).
- Property: A recent mortgage redemption statement and an up-to-date market appraisal.
- Pensions: The Cash Equivalent Transfer Value (CETV) for all pensions.
- Debts: Statements for any loans, credit cards, or HP agreements.
For Child Arrangements
Focus on the practicalities of your child’s daily life:
- Schedules: School term dates, inset days, and work rotas.
- Activities: Dates for swimming, football, or tuition clubs.
- Special Dates: Birthdays, religious holidays, and half-term plans.
- Health: Any specific medical or support needs the child has.
3. Funding Preparation
In 2026, there are two primary ways to reduce or eliminate the cost of mediation. Bring proof for these to your MIAM:
- Legal Aid: If you are on a low income or receive benefits (e.g., Universal Credit), you may be eligible for free mediation. Bring your National Insurance number and recent benefit award letters.
- Family Mediation Voucher: For child-related disputes, the government provides a £500 voucher per family (confirmed through March 2026). Your mediator will apply for this on your behalf after the MIAM; you do not need to apply yourself.
4. Mental and Emotional Preparation
Mediation is a future-focused process. To get the most out of it, try to adjust your perspective:
- From “Positions” to “Interests”: Instead of saying “I must have 50% of the pension,” consider “I need to ensure I have a stable income in retirement.”
- Child-Centred Language: Focus on what the child needs (e.g., “Our son needs to spend quality time with both of us”) rather than what you feel you are “entitled” to.
- The “Six Month” Test: Ask yourself, “What would a workable, peaceful routine look like for my family in six months’ time?” Use that vision to guide your compromises.
Common Pitfalls to Avoid
- Hiding Assets: Full and frank disclosure is a legal requirement. If it’s discovered later that assets were hidden, any agreement reached in mediation can be set aside by a judge.
- Rushing the MIAM: Use the MIAM to ask questions about Shuttle Mediation (separate rooms) or Hybrid Mediation (where lawyers attend) if you are nervous about the process.
- Neglecting FM5: In 2026, you must show the court what you’ve done to avoid a battle. Treat mediation as a serious attempt to settle, as judges now look unfavourably on those who “tick the box” without trying.
Final Thought
Preparation is the key to confidence. Arriving at your MIAM with your basic financial facts and a child-focused mindset transforms the meeting from a legal hurdle into a genuine opportunity for a fresh start.